✉️ When You Feel Like the Parent — and Hate It

If you’ve ever caught yourself parenting your parent — and resenting how weird it feels — you’re not alone.

One day you’re asking your dad to borrow the car.
The next, you’re asking him to stop driving it.

This wasn’t how things were supposed to go.
Not this soon. Not like this.

When the roles flip — when you’re the one booking doctor appointments, managing medications, or keeping secrets from them for their own good — it can feel disorienting, awkward, even a little shameful.

You’re not trying to take over.
But you’re also trying to keep things from falling apart.

And here’s the hardest part:
They still see themselves as the parent.
And you probably still feel like their child.

This tension — between responsibility and reverence — doesn’t have a clean resolution.

But naming it helps.

And leading with this can, too:

Sometimes, saying that out loud softens the moment.
For them. And for you.

You’re not doing it wrong.
It’s just that no one told you how heavy this would feel.